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Vie's avatar

The exams part for me 😂😂😂

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Vic Wealth's avatar

Forgiveness plays a significant role, when it comes to inner joy and peace ✌️

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Akwaima Ekaeba's avatar

Forgave someone who hurt my friends and I deeply. Almost lost my friends for it but they came around. Forgiveness is important because we hurt people and regret our actions later because we've unlearned certain behaviors.

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Yess, I’ve been in a situation like this. I forgave someone who hurt my friend and I, but I lost my friend as a result of my decision to forgive... I think forgiveness is also important because we will want people to forgive us when we hurt them too.

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Letters from Victory's avatar

Some actions are unforgivable honestly. But, I believe with time, we just let it go and forgive.

But one thing I always have at the back of my mind, is that Forgiveness doesn't mean reconnection.

I can forgive and cut ties and that's very much okay

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Yes. You’re right!🥂

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Chizitara Samson's avatar

And you’re question, I think some deeds are supposed to be termed ‘unforgivable’ but we serve God who forgives us despite our differences and wrong doings so???

There are lots of evil deeds humans do to humans which I will not lie, will take a great deal of the grace of God to help forgive and forget but in the end, we have to forgive, not for them, but for ourselves🙏 I’m sorry you had to go through whatever it is you went through. We all have issues that linger in our hearts. Issues that if we think of bring that slight pain or regret but… we meauveeee🤣😘

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Most definitely, dear... we moveeee!✨

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Justice Udo Udoma Chambers's avatar

Like you said, forgiveness is really mostly about loving yourself more and not letting the past hold you hostage. So in the reality of their imperfections, our selflove will stand taller. Great piece, Pacesetter.

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Yesss!! Forgiveness plays a part in realization of self love. Thank you, thank you so much.

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Patrick Kingsley's avatar

There is no deed to big to forgive. Nice work 👌🚀

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Thank you✨

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Inem David's avatar

I'm in love with the way you use your words to express your thoughts❤️.

To me forgiving is loving myself more by expressing the act of not letting someone’s shortcomings rub off on me.

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Gold Ekanem's avatar

Is the Last paragraph for me...

Nevertheless I'm with you

I'm not forgiving those that has decided to start the exams on the 12th 😊...

Let's hold on till after writing it successfully...

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Yeahh. Successfully.🥂

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Nana_bong's avatar

I love how interactive your entries feel. I also agree that there are seemingly unforgivable things but then how long can one hold a grudge for?

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Trueee!! How long?

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Joy Samuel's avatar

Reading this article looks like you talking about me..but I've learnt something anyways... It's really tough to forgive people that hurt you really deep, that should make you not to talk to them anymore. But then we are Christians.

I believe keeping people at arms length is better after forgiving, before they get to hurt you another time.

Thanks for the write up💙

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

You’re welcome. Thank you for your input.✨

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Harvest A.xveey's avatar

I think I've learnt how to let go of the anger, frustration and sadness but i end up resenting the people I forgive, if that makes sense.

Yes, I have forgiven you but I don't like you anymore because what you did hurt me and I had to forgive you inorder to let go of the heaviness that was in my heart, for you to get back on my good side you have to merit it!!

It's just weird at times because it feels like because you've forgiven someone you have to reinstitute them to their former position in your life without hesitation

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Yes. I totally understand this. I feel like this sometimes, that hesitation is a sign that you were really hurt. It’s okay if it takes a while before you reinstitute them. You were hurt and you need time. Just be sure that when you say “I’ve forgiven you”, it’s as true as the sun rising in the East.

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FayFay's avatar

To forgive is human, until you forgive a person who doesn’t even want to be forgiven.

I’d rather not even harbor the bitterness and just cut you off. ;)

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

Cutting ties might just be what’s necessary but don’t avoid a conversation when there’s a need for it.

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Ayomide🧸💅🏽's avatar

Thank you for this …it was really needed at this point ❤️

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

You’re welcome! 💫

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Anonymous's avatar

I forgiving is possible, forgetting not so much, but if you don’t forget I think it scientifically means you have a working brain

Cos it’s hard to forget experiences

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UnyimeAbasi Okpudoh's avatar

It’s hard to forget, yes. It’s hard to forgive too, but it is feasible. That’s it.

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